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Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Nothing does stick...for the young and the weary..

I will write on situations of life….my experience …(so that nobody pokes holes in generalizations)….coz what I experience is Meri Marzi…

There were times when I was very young…..I had been into very sticky situations….I will not delve into the specifics as specifics of my life will be useless to you. ( they generally are except for few people who relate with you), only the experiences are useful..

Right now I am hearing this song being played somewhere…Woh pehli baar jab ham mile…, I had purchased my first computer then …I used to play this song on that…Sorry…songs take me away…I cant help it…

So sticky situations howsoever bad it may be never last... The solution or the opportunity is just around the corner…one has to be patient and be prepared to hold the opportunity.

Yes there are times when the situations are much more sticky when it is a matter of life and death…Well J then life itself is not so sticky….am not talking of those situations for now..

So no help was around…the days were as monotonous as ever…the change was far away…..hoping against the hope….there was no way that the situations could be changed.. I was completely stuck and stuck….

And guess what happened….

nothing great happened …..I kept stuck for long and very long…. …no change happened so very soon…I just had to keep patience…I started reading books (fiction that time)and living in other people’s lives…early morning started with a book….work…lunch ..book ..work…dinner…book…

I kept reading and reading…I was not living my life….but it helped me….I could live in some other world…and kept my mind alive and intact. This was my way to find a solution…there are many different ways…( don’t ever take up addiction on alcohol/drugs…you will never get out of that)

So if you get stuck (I am using You, but it is not intended to preach, only explain) .…then do not loose patience…..live in what is around ..or what you can find around to live with…and just hope and believe….Believe ….Yes it is very strong word…You can not hope if you do not believe…believe that things are going to be fine with you…You are so special to God…or to Nature….or whomsoever you believe in…Life is a precious gift given to you…and above all…. the gift of Life is given to you and is not affected/dependent on the People….Circumstances….Situations….Not even your parents, siblings, spouses, children, friends, acquaintances…NO ONE…no one but the One who has given you the gift can only have control on your gift…It is yours and only yours to cherish.

So that is it... I am here to tell you that, You are going to Get what you want….have patience…everything will fall in right place and right time…till that time..Enjoy and live in peace.

Friday, November 9, 2007

To the One Who Understands

As we travel down the lanes, past the big and small houses, some congested and dirty and some beautiful and exotic streets of life, we look forward more to relate with the like minds...

Like minds are the ones who understand you without much of efforts and who relate to you with equal ease, the common background in culture, religion, region etc does help but it is not the only thing that matters... There are times that travelling in some odd country, the passenger sitting next to you may be a person who may be very much known to you...

The design of life existence would not have known any boundaries..

Unfortunate part is that we are tied up with so many prejudices of a society which is ruled by scholars of the ethical and non ethical, the sensible and insensible that we never get the courage to relate to the right people...the projection of self on others and perceptions of self for others are so central thoughts that the urge to relate dies down in fighting these inhibitions..

Here ego plays a big role..living in an environment where everyone has so much of ego in terms of , I am meant fot this work...I am meant to behave like this..I am meant to be treated like this...the ego boundaries are so much tight and inflexible that they do not allow any other person to enter your periphery of personality without valid reason...so even I would like to enter and relate to a personality, I will hesitate that I shall not be taken as intruding in the private space of the other... The more we advance forward the more these boundaries are getting reinforced...

The loosening of the egos are important for everyone..the relating shall go above the specifications of the regional and cultural backgrounds.. the relating and feeling shall happen in every walk of life.

We all work in small societies..our offices and colleagues are around..how many of the people around try to know you personally ..very few, we spend so much of time with all the people in office and we know them the least...this is a degenerative environment..

Leaving alone the hypocrisy...I take resolve that I would like to connect more and more with the like minded...and would like to loosen my ego to allow others to step in any time and say Hello.

Lone Man and the Road

There was a lone man going alone on a winding rural road along the sea. He was walking in a pensive mood with a loose bag hung on his shoulder. He had been walking for a long time and there was no place to rest in sight. The bag was heavy and heat was tolerable, but it was too warm. The man was thinking how he may eat some food and drink some water and take rest under some shed. He had set out to sell sea shells with special identities, but there has been not many buyers lately. The money from the last good sale couple of days back was running thin to buy today's food. Children and joggers who were the regular customers have dwindled due to holidays, they had gone to bigger and more beautiful beaches.

The man had recently read in some old piece of newspaper about lateral thinking. He started thinking whether it was the right thing that he had set out to;

sell the sea shells, may be some other goods might have been better..
sell the shells in this part of country , may be some other place would be better..
sell the shells and not to dive and find the shells where locals use to pay some money to divers to find the shells,
sell the shells at appropriate time, some other time of day would be better,

The man was getting restless and his thinking had started turning towards the self pity, thinking about the others who had set out together with him couple of years back were selling better products, like sea food, prawns, crabs, etc, there were others who had started repairing boats and were owning few boats now. Suddenly the man realised that like usual self pity is not coming up over his stomach to his heart and thru his spine over to his head and then wetting of eyes...the stomach is just hungry, the mind is not in frenzy, it is just not thinking, the eyes are also as dry as they were ever.

Then he thought that self pity has stopped to pity on him. He was very neutral knowing the fact that he is just here where he is walking. The man smiled and was slightly amused to discover the new fact about himself.

Two big car approached and some young girls and boys came out. They were the kind of happy go lucky people who had found this place just while driving and thought of stopping by. The Man thought that they would not be the usual customers who may buy shells. But he thought of trying, the boys shrugged when he asked if they would like to see shells, the girls showed some interest, but then they thought where to hold and keep these shells and finally where to display, there own rooms were so shabby that shells will add to more unused items. They also scorned this man who was a bit out of romantic situation, they turned around their back.

The Man walked by and continued on the road. The road had been watching this man for long and could not hold itself. It asked this man," Where do you think you are going? Are you sure about the way?" The man was not surprised, the nature had spoken to him before a few times and he replied, "I think I know, there is a Shack few hundred yards away and some rides are there, I may find some kids to sell these shells" The road told him," I know about that shack since I pass thru that shack, but it is deserted now, the owner shifted from there as there was not much business here, what would you do now?"

The Man was now in a fix, the last inhabitated place was miles away and this shack also is not there, he stopped still and started thinking, his strength was also falling, he asked the Road," Can you help?What do I do now?"

The road did not reply immediately, then it said" Do you remember last year when you got big sale of shells nearby on this beach,? You had lot of money for a few days." The man said,"yes I do"

Road: What did you do with that?
Man: I ate good food for man days, I built my wood house and I drank good wine in that.
Road: What else, you still had money left
Man: Yes, i went to good girls in village pub and had fun
Road: Still you had money
Man: Yes, I gave it to village grocer to keep it for me as saving
Road: But there was some more
Man : Yes, I loaned it to my friend who wanted to buy a better fishing net
Road: So you spent all ?
Man :Yes I could do what ever was justified to do with that money
Road: Did you find some hungry children on the beach when you had good money
Man: Yes they are always there and are ever hungry
Road: Were you approached by one man who was blind and could not find way to his son's house in another village
Man: Yes , I think someone helped him
Road: Did you meet one Dog which had broken its leg and kept continuosly growling in pain? Man: Yes, I shooed him away
Road: Did you meet one staranger who was in pain as he had lost his business and told you his story?
Man: Yes the losers always like strangers to tell their story ..( LOL)
Road: Did you meet one woman who wanted to buy medicine but could not for her father?
Man: Yeah, the pharmacy man would have helped her .

The Road said, " Look, God had given you many chances to improve your life but you lost all" Man was truly surprised," How come , God gave me the chances?"


Road told to Man," Look , the nature of which you are a part does not work on Ayn Rand's Obectivism. It neither works on Gandhi's socialism. Nature works on passion and empathy to your fellow humans, as all of you are derived from the same universal consiousness, when you miss out to see the pain of other person, the Universe misses out to see your pains also...If you earn 100 bucks always try to find how you can give 5 bucks out to a genuine needy person. Do not tell or think or recall or feel glorified after giving...you have helped and you have moved forward. This 5% good is what it comes back to you after reverberating into this nature and with bigger force and magnitude.

The Man could understand something...but it was too late...He thanked the Road and slept empty stomach for that night. But his mind was silent and there was not hunger, as he could understand...